If you prefer not to automatically sync music content to your iPod or iPhone, you can set up manual syncing.
When the “Manually manage” option is enabled, you can use Autofill to quickly sync audio content from your music library or a selected playlist. Autofill settings allow you to adjust how songs are selected for syncing as well as allocate space for disk use.
iTunes includes several options to automatically or manually sync music to your iPhone 3GS, iPhone 4, iPhone 4S, iPod, iPod touch, iPod mini, iPod nano, iPod classic, iPod shuffle (3rd generation), iPhone, iPod shuffle (4th generation).
Connect your device to your computer and open iTunes.
Select your iPod or iPhone in the Devices section on the left side of the iTunes window.
In the main iTunes browser window, select the Summary.
Select the option to “Manually manage music and videos” or “Manually manage music.” This will deselect the automatic sync settings for the Music, Movies, and TV Shows tabs. Automatic syncing for Podcasts, Photos, Contacts, and Games can be individually disabled by selecting those options in each of those tabs. Note: When manually managing iPod, disk use is enabled and iPod must always be manually ejected in iTunes before disconnecting it from your computer.
To manually add music, audiobooks, movies or TV shows, choose one of these categories under Library on the top-left of the iTunes window.
Select and drag items you want (to choose multiple items, Command-click items on a Mac or Control-click items in Windows), then drag them onto your iPod or iPhone icon under Devices.
To add a playlist, select it from the left side of the iTunes window and drag it onto your device in the same way.
When you are ready to disconnect your iPod, select it under Devices and click the eject icon next to it.
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